What Makes 'Your Type' Your Type

We often fall for the same kinds of people and get into similar kinds of relationships. We find out why...

Ever wondered why you keep falling for the same kind of people, even if you know the relationship is flawed? If you see a pattern in the kind of people you keep getting attracted to, then you've perceived something many people don't - that we tend to look for a certain kind of personality type in our romantic relationships. There are social factors that contribute to our choice of partners, and understanding what dictates that choice can help us work more effectively at relationships and making them work.

Two ends of a spectrum

We're all built emotionally like incomplete jigsaw puzzles - there are certain pieces missing. We all unconsciously look for people who have the pieces we don't, in a manner of speaking. We carry anxieties, expectations and attitudes from our upbringing and social environment, and the partners we choose reflects what those needs and fears are. When we find someone with more of the 'right' pieces than others, the feeling that results is often what people call 'love'.

When someone raises her/his eyebrow at your current partner and says, 'Opposites attract', give that cliched comment a little more thought. Most of us do look for partners who 'complete us' - provide the qualities we lack, or have attitudes that are complementary to ours.

See if any of these relationship types are patterns that you see in your romantic relationships.

Bicker, bicker

There are couples who fight all the time, and seem so ill fitted to one another, you sometimes wonder how they got together in the first place. They often come together because of sheer 'chemistry'. Since they're so different, sparks sometimes fly immediately between them. They need the stimulation of that constant conflict, because they're never quite that happy, or that aggravated, in any other type of relationship.

Suitor and beloved

Some couples carry the wooing phase over into the more mature stages of a relationship, sometimes because of unequal degrees of affection. One is more independent, and doesn't always need her/his partner to be around all the time to feel happy. She/he has no problem with the other partner 'wooing' her/him often. The other person, then, becomes the suitor, taking the lead in displaying affection, sometimes in the face of mild indifference from the other partner.

Dominant and submissive

In these relationships, one partner is more dominating (not always or necessarily bossy, but definitely the stronger personality). This partner tends to make many of the decisions and have the last word. The other is in constant need of direction, again because of some insecurity, and prefers to have the other partner take the lead. He/she submits willingly to the authority the other exercises.

The missing parent

Know someone whose partner always seems like they're acting like an attention-hungry baby? Or are you in a relationship in which one of you is always subconsciously 'parenting' the other? It often happens that one partner, especially if that one is younger to the other, behaves in a childlike manner, out of insecurity or a lack of confidence. The other one is always protective and mature, taking the initiative and being indulgent.

Looking up to them

This relationship type often emerges when a person who idolises another gets into a more intimate romantic relationship with her/him. She/he then gets into the rut of being slightly in awe of the other, and that respect is often what brings and holds the relationship together. The partner who's worshipped is content to let that remain, sometimes because of an egoistic need for attention. This doesn't mean that any of these relationship models is immoral, but none of them should undermine your self esteem.

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