Insecurity in Relationship - Still Waiting for that Phone Call?

Croping up of such insecurities can prove disastrous for the nurturing of future bondings...

Insecurity can come in many different forms. From being insecure about physical appearance to feeling unconfident about emotional issues; feelings of insecurity often surface in any given relationship at some point. While in some cases the insecurity is a deep-rooted demon from a past bad experience or childhood trauma, in most cases, certain types of insecurities are felt by most people during the initial dating stages and the beginning of a relationship. The following is a list of the most common reasons why an individual could feel insecure both during early dating and at the onset of a relationship.

The Dating Insecurities

Not calling

The first most common reason why people tend to get insecure and back off during the early stages of dating is the fact that they might not receive a phone call as promised. If you are on a date with someone and you are the one who says you are going to call, then make sure to make that phone call. If you say you're going to call in a day or two but call after a week instead, it could give out the signal that you are not very interested.

Only sexual intentions

The very fact that you are going on a date with someone, says that at some level, the attraction is physical. However, even if you have been having mad sexual fantasies about this person, try not to be too blatant about it and throw yourself all over him or her. Many people can start to feel insecure emotionally if they feel that you are only interested in them sexually. So give it time and try not to take things either too fast or too slow. Rather, just go with the flow and let things happen naturally.

Other people

It is perfectly acceptable to casually date more than one person at the same time as long as you are honest about it. So, if you are dating about other people, don't lie about it. You don't lie about it. You don't have to bring it up in conversation, but the honest. Because if the dating turns into a serious relationship, it's only fair to let him or her know the truth about your dating life.

Not interested

Even the most confident individual sometimes needs a little affirmation that you're interested in him or her. If he or she feels that you are not very interested, they might start feeling insecure and start looking for reassurance elsewhere, so as to avoid such a situation, give hints to let him or her know that they are special to you.

Relationship Insecurities

Cheating

The fear that your partner is cheating on you is the worst insecurity to live with and it is also the most common early relationship anxiety that people feel. So, watch out for this one. You do need to address this fear and give the assurance that you are committed.

Bad in bed

This is a very touchy subject and most insecurity stems from this particular issue. So if things are going well in that department, make sure to let him or her know. If not, be sure to address to address the issue in the most sensitive manner possible.

No attraction anymore

Just because you are in a relationship, it doesn't mean that he or she does not need reassurance anymore. In fact, because you are done with the dating and are now taking things a little more seriously, you have to work extra hard to let your partner know that you still find him or her her attractive.

The third person

Do you flirt with other men or women in front of your partner? If you do this consistently, you can't blame them for feeling insecure. There is nothing wrong with harmless flirting but when you're in a relationship, devote all your attention to your partner.

Insecurities can destroy a relationship and the smallest situation can spark a series of unwanted mishaps. So, avoid losing a person you really like, address the issues and move on!

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I have a major problem with internet porn, my guy whom I've been with for 7 years still looks at porn, what can I do? - crystal - 2007-04-05

Think of it as better than him going out and cheating on you. Watch it with him sometimes. I would'nt have a problem unless he was not wanting to have sex with me at all, because of him jacking off on porn. Maybe he uses it to gain new sexual ideas. - Angela - 2007-04-10

My insecurities get the best of me sometimes..and its hurting my relationship?...what can i do? - christie - 2007-04-17

My childhood was kinda bad! My Dad always cheated on my mom..... the worst part about it is that they made it obious and we (my brothers and I) always knew about their problems. At the end, my mother ended up cheating and leaving my dad... Now I'm so afraid of my husband cheating on me... it's like I'm waiting for that day to come. Everything he does I always find something fishy and it's killing me! What can I do? :-( - Elizabeth - 2007-05-07

I often and sometimes want a relationship. But, I feel insecure around men and don't want that feeling. I have only had 3 relationships. Now, I am working on number 4. I am starting to feel this way again. I always do. What is my problem? All I want is to feel happy in my relationships.... Please help!!!!!!!!!! - Charlene - 2007-05-09

How can I help solve my insecurity, its destroying my relationship slowly; I'm beginning to trust less and less. How can I solve this? - Jonathan - 2007-05-19

My relationship is somewhat different, my partner doesn't really want to have sex, I've asked if he enjoys it and he does. I offer oral sex and he doesn't want it, sex is good when we do have it which is very rare. From the first time we're together I knew there was a problem. The funny thing is he is training to be a counsellor and should be very open to working on it, I have spoke to him but I feel he doesnt understand how important it is to me. It's not about the sex, I just want to be close to him and more intimate. - Sarah - 2007-05-21

Charlene please let me know if you figure it out....At least you know you're not alone! I always sabbotage my relationships - Cruxily - 2007-05-25

I dont mind my husband watching porn. What I am offended by is I found pictures of close friends and co-workers mixed in with his porn. Plus video of myself that he had and I wasn't even aware it exsisted. Trying to figure out a remedy without being revengeful. - Drew - 2007-05-26