Rebound Relationship

So your relationship didn’t quite work out. And now you have had a bad breakup. Breakups can get rather messy and in such a case all the sweet memories of the times spent together are tarnished. Before you know it you have attached yourself to anything that walks on two legs, talks and appears human! Welcome to the world of rebound relationships…

Why do people get into rebound relationships? When the security of a relationship has just been lost, one strongly feels the need of someone to take that place of that loved one. Then it doesn’t matter how good or bad the replacement is, all that matters is that you have SOMEONE. Anybody who will take your mind off the pain and help you get over the feeling of worthlessness will do. So, the simple reason behind these rebound relationships is to get emotional support, no matter where it comes from.

In most cases people tend to rebound onto their friends of the opposite sex, anyone who offers the slightest sympathy or shows the tiniest bit of care becomes a suitable target for the rebound. When a relationship falls apart, it leaves a person heartbroken and lonely. Such a person will search for somebody who cares. In such instances, it is easy to interpret somebody’s friendly gestures as something like love.

But rebounds can turn out okay as long as one sticks to the following rules:

UNDERSTAND

The most important thing is to know that this is not love, its just a rebound. It is best to be clear about your feelings to yourself at least. You need to understand that this is a normal reaction to a heartbreak. Don’t feel too guilty about it. However, do try not to get too involved with the person you rebound to.

MAINTAIN LIMITS

The scariest thing about rebounds is that you will find yourself being extremely eager to please. Do not go over the top. Don’t overindulge physically either. You don’t want to regret it later.

DON’T FALL FOR YOUR BEST FRIEND

True, there will not be another person who cares for you as much as your best friend does, but you wouldn’t want to risk ruining your friendship, would you? Not only will this make your friend feel used but it will make you feel extremely guilty too. Your friend will be willing to care for you even if you are not in a relationship. Cherish and respect that.

A rebound may seem like the wrong thing to do, but it is perfectly normal. Its something you do to buffer a great change in your life. It slowly ebbs the pain out of the broken relationship and brings you back to your good senses. So, don’t worry but do maintain a certain discretion. All will be well.

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