How do I know when I am ready for a relationship

ASK YOURSELF:

Why would this person want to be with you? How considerate, independent, funny and interesting are you? Relationships of all kinds are the classrooms in which we learn all about life. The possibility of being hooked at the deepest level makes love relationships so taxing. Women often look to a man to complete them, particularly financially. But, the truth is that you need to have a deep relationship with yourself. Then, you can have one with others.

BE AWARE OF SELF:

Self-awareness includes recognising what pushes your buttons, and how you react in certain situations. It's important to learn to be a wife, a lover, a sister or a friend from your family of origin. The perception we have of these roles and the ways we reach out are programmed from birth. So, recalling your family's style of communication will give you an insight into your own way of operating.

GET OVER PAST RELATIONSHIPS:

This is crucial before embarking into a new relationship. Question where you are emotionally with regards to your previous relationships? If you dont do this, it does not matter who you choose, you will simply project everything you associated with the last man, on to the new one.

TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FOR YOUR CHOICES:

At the end of a relationship, you will go through a predictable sequence of emotions: denial, anger and then blame, which is where a lot of people get stuck. As long as you hold someone else accountable, you can't let go of the relationship. You need to take responsibility for your choices and stop pointing fingers. You may move into a state of depression where you mourn the loss of connection, but when you realise that the relationship has been an oppurtunity to learn, you finally reach acceptance.

LEARN FROM THE PAST:

Relationships of all kinds are the classrooms in which we learn all about life....... the truth is that you need to learn from past mistakes and take care not to repeat them. That is when you are ready to move on.

Learn to love again - recapture that special feeling

No comments yet. Be the first one to send your comments for this page. Use the form below.