How to deal with adultery |
It is a private issue:
People outside your relationship and family may gossip or ask about
the affair. Remember, it's not their business. It is something that
concerns you and your mate. Don't care about what others say.
If you were unfaithful:
You made a bad decision, so accept the responsibility. Understand
that your mate needs time, so give that to him or her. Don't try
to justify your past behavior,; no excuse can change the past. If
you still have contact with the 'other person', sever the relationship.
You will never solve the problem, otherwise.
If your mate cheated:
First of all, do you think that you can forgive your mate? If the
answer is no, then you may need to examine whether the relationship
can work again. Never invest more into a relationship than you can
afford to lose. If you can't afford to be rejected or put down again,
then you need to tell your mate. Be honest with your partner and
explain your needs.
Restoring Trust After The Affair Is Possible
A step-by-step system for saving your relationship after it´s been shattered by an affair. Tormented by your unanswered questions? Devastated after having your complete self-worth sabotaged? Work through the healing and restoration of your relationship after an affair. Learn how to restore the honesty, safety and trust back into your relationship (even if your partner isn't yet willing).
3-Step Method for Coming into Agreement
Step 1: Stating What You Need to Come into Agreement About
The first thing you need to do to come into agreement is to make a definitive statement about what you need to come into agreement about. This could be anything that you are struggling with or need some reassurance about in your relationship. It could be a relatively trivial matter or one that is truly troubling your relationship. Whatever it is, it needs to be specific so that you can look at specific actions you might take to change it.
Step 2: Figuring out Solutions to the Problem
The next step in the process is to figure out a solution to the problem you are facing or a statement of reassurance about the issue you are discussing. Again, this is as varied as individuals are, and you might come up with a million different solutions for a million different problems.
Step 3: Putting Your Plan into Effect
The final step in this process is to do what you say you are going to do. Once you come up with a solution (or a series of solutions) that you both agree is workable, it is time to put that plan of action into effect and see if it works.
For more information about restoring the trust after an affair, please visit: http://www.surviveanaffair.com
About the Author:
Dr. Frank Gunzburg is a licensed counselor in Maryland and has been specializing is helping couples restore their marriage for over 30 years. He is also the author of How to Survive an Affair, a step-by-step healing system that can help a couple repair their relationship after it has been shattered from an affair. If your relationship has been damaged by an affair and you would like a step-by-step system for repairing your relationship, then please visit Dr. Gunzburg's site for more information: http://www.surviveanaffair.com
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