How Much To Reveal On A First Date

The first impression is usually the last impression. This is especially true when it comes to the impression created during a first date because unless it goes well, you can be pretty sure that you won’t have another date together.

When you are thinking of a relationship with someone, you need to endear yourself to them without twisting the facts. Lying is always a bad idea because it will, one day or the other, land you into trouble and a little white lie can effectively end even a well-established relationship. However, what you choose to reveal on your first date is totally upto you. As the understanding between you and your partner increases, you can fill them up on the details you had left out earlier.

The idea is to highlight the positive aspects of your personality and avoid bringing up your negative traits. Understand that good or bad characteristics are relative. What one person may like, another may detest. The key to learning what your date likes is to listen. Ask questions and listen attentively. However, do not ask questions that are personal or offensive. Be discreet. There are often many different ways of asking the same question. But if your date is hesitant about discussing a particular topic, stay clear of it.

If you are unsure of what to talk about, pick up topics that interest both of you. Food, movies and music make good topics of discussion. Reveal aspects of your personality that complement your partner’s.

Talking about your past lovers is an absolute no. Relationships that soured is not something you should discuss on your first date. If you do, your date will think that you are still emotionally attached to your ex. If you have had a string of relationships, it may again, cast you in a bad light. Also, never bad-mouth your past partners. You are being judged by everything you say. It is best to maintain a neutral stand. If your date brings up the topic of your past relationships, answer in a simple “I’ve gotten over it.”

As far as possible, don’t talk about your bad habits. Family problems and your personal problems are other topics to avoid.

Your financial condition, no matter how appealing it may be, is not something to be discussed on a first date. You don’t want your partner to love your money, or pity you for the lack of it!

Discuss about things that are arbitrary and of no direct relevance if you run out of topics. If you have a good sense of humour, crack jokes and make your date laugh. Bring up topics you are comfortable with. The first date provides your partner with a picture of you. All you need to do is to make sure the picture is a favourable one. Good luck!

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