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Flirt With Each Other

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Sat, 18 Aug 2007 20:52:00 +0000

Even if you've been together for years, experts say flirting sends natural amphetamines and endorphins surging through the body, stimulating an instant emotional "high" not unlike orgasm. Pretend you've just met him (or her) and act as you did at the beginning. Dress sexily, look your partner straight in the eye when he talks to you, and be aware of your body when you move in front of him.

The Secret To Happiness

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 02:40:00 +0000

The key to a happy relationship could be accepting that some miserable times are unavoidable.

Researchers from California State University, North Ridge and Virginia Tech said that accepting these problems is better than striving for perfection. And they blame cultural fairy tales and modern love stories for perpetuating the myth that enjoying a perfect relationship is possible.

"It's a myth that, with enough effort, we can achieve a state without suffering. Healthcare professionals may not helping the situation. The field of mental health perpetuates this myth with the very concept of mental health, which implies a state without suffering. It was important to explore what people mean by a happy and healthy relationship because nobody's life or relationship can be in a permanent state of happiness - there will always be more difficult times," said research team leader Dr (Ms) Diane Gehart, a professor at the university.

But this belief can eventually cause people to believe that with enough effort they can eliminate suffering. There is an unrealistic aim in relationships, and striving to achieve it can lead people to feel they have failed. "Couples need to build strengths, such as understanding in their relationships to help them cope in these hard times and appreciate the good times," Ms Gehart said.

Mistakes Women Make In Bed

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 17:38:00 +0000

You've got too many rules - You'll only make love with the lights off. You object to trying most new things. Newsflash: uptight isn't sexy.

You're too self-conscious - Think you need a perfect body to be a sex symbol? That's bullshit. Men enjoy lovemaking with someone who is uninhibited and confident in bed. You may look like a million dollars, but if you are cold and timid in bed, your beauty is useless.

You're never in the mood - Being sexy isn't something you trot out once or twice a week for 20 minutes, it's a round-the-clock attitude. That means cutting out the tired excuses, too. Once you start putting off passion, it becomes a habit, so make sure you're infusing your daily routine with plenty of randy thoughts.

You're too passive - Learn to manhandle that man! He sures like passion and intimacy, but loves if you heat things up for him. Who doesn't like lusty loving?

You relinquish your right to climax - Don't consider hitting your passion peak as a lucky bonus, but assume it's going to happen; it's just a matter of when and how. Don't let your inner goody-two-shoes talk you out of having the best time you can.

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Ooze Confidence IN Bed

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 23:17:00 +0000

How good do you think you are in bed? Pretty good? Swell. Confidence may be the sexiest thing you'll ever wear to bed. It not only gives you intoxicating evergy, it also brings excitement to whatever you're doing. Lots of things can undermine a person's confidence, but it often comes down to performance. Your husband may worry about whether he can get it up and last; you may worry about whether you'll come and if so, when. But, what matters is not his performance - or yours - on any given night but the overall satisfaction and pleasure you both enjoy over time. You can't aim to always get things right in bed. Sexual confidence comes as much from setbacks as from successes. If you and your husband occasionally bomb in bed, you learn something about yourselves; the more you learn, the more confidence you gain. So relax.

Let Breakfast... DO THE TRICK

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 19:59:00 +0000

On a rainy sunday, when neither of you has any pressing engagements, slip out of bed early and whip up a special breakfast. You'll put a new spin to your routine life by bringing breakfast for your partner in bed, then feeding it to him or her! Select foods you can easily eat with your fingers, such as strawberries, cookies or buttered toast breads. Avoid heavy, rich foods or you'll be in a food coma for hours and perhaps spend the morning napping. If you keep it light, you'll have enough energy to expend on more erotic activities!

Sweet Nothings Mean A Lot

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 09:41:00 +0000

Words whispered into your man's ears will have a wonderfully stimulating effect. Due to the fact that the ears are full of nerve endings, whispering sweet nothings will not only bring pleasure in response to your sugary words, but will also excite the erogenous zones. Sweet nothings are words that are full of love and romance, gently whispered into your lover's ears. When making love, add sweet nothings to increase and heighten the romantic atmosphere. Try whispering a few naughty or suggestive phrases - whatever you are both comfortable with - in his ear. Follow up the word-play with a light nibble, lick or tickle. You'll love the response you receive!

Fathers Like Husbands

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 15:24:00 +0000

Women who got along well with their dads as kids are attracted to men who resemble their fathers, where women who had a bad father-daughter relationship do not.

Researchers at the University of Wroclaw and the Institute of Anthropology in Poland asked a trained anthropologist to perform facial measurements on the photographs of 15 random men as well as the photographs of the fathers of 49 Polish women participating in this new study. The anthropologist calculated 15 key proportions based on how various features - such as lips, nose, cheekbones and brows - related to each face's height and width. The researchers also compared the 15 random faces to each of the father's faces to determine how closely they resembled one another.

The women then rated their childhood relationships with their fathers based on how emotionally invested they felt their dads had been in raising them and how much time their fathers had spent with them. The women were split into two groups based on how positively or negatively they rated their relationships. Then the researchers asked the women to rate how attractively they found each of the 15 random male faces.

The women who had reported positive relationships with their fathers were much more likely to be attracted to men resembling their fathers.

On the other hand women with bad relationships did not find men who looked like their fathers appealing.

"Although no one yet knows for sure why females show these preferences, a woman with a great dad may choose a similar looking mate in the hopes that he will also be a good father," research team leader Dr (Ms) Lynda Boothroyd, a professor of psychology at the University of Durham, England, told reporters recently.

Office Spouse

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 19:30:00 +0000

He knows your birthday, your favourite food, worst fear, and deepest, darkest secret. No, it's not your husband, the man you promised to love and cherish until the day you die. It's your 'office spouse' - a phrase coined to describe the new relationship that's developed in office. Maintaining a non-sexual relationship with an office spouse can be tricky and sometimes detrimental to your marriage.

Attraction is inevitable as you work closely with someone all week long and for so many hours. But you have to be careful, and think of your partner. So you've realised that there's an intimacy between the two of you. But mind the line, which need not be crossed. Getting attracted to a co-worker is very easy but you should know where to stop. You have to keep your emotions, passions and feelings in control. Affairs in office normally start as friendship. The person is drawn to you because of your honesty and openness. Be careful and be witty and cautious enough to stay at a distance from such a person. Think of your kids and partner - they need you back home and having a fling with an office spouse will not help too much.

SEX On The Most Romantic Day

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 11:57:00 +0000

Gone are the days when woman became starry-eyed if their lovers gifted them flowers on Valentine Day.

A new poll suggests that ladies today prefer to move straight to the bedroom. More than 52 per cent of American women said that they wanted to have sex on the most romantic day of the year, according to a survey sponsored by a condom company.

The craving for sex was highest among younger women, with 76 per cent of those between 18 and 34 saying they wanted to get cosy.

Beautiful Couples

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 18:03:00 +0000

Physically attractive couples are 36 per cent more likely than unattractive couples to produce a girl as their first child. This new study is based on a survey of 3,000 young American adults conducted during the period from 2001 to 2002, who were taking part in an investigation called, "The National Longitudinal study of Adolescent - health".

"Physical attractiveness is an objective quantitative measure, iust like height and weight. Standards of beauty are both innate and culturally universal and everybody agrees on who is beautiful and who is ugly just like they agree on who is tall and who is short.

The biggest factor is facial features. There are computer programmes that can precisely measure someone's physical attractiveness. Comparing the percentage of boys and girls born to the participants who were very attractive with the sex ratio of babies born to everyone else, it is discovered that 56 per cent of first babies born to very attractive parents were girls, while fewer than 50 per cent of the babies born to parents in each of the other categories were girls. Why does this occur? The study supports the evolutionary theory that parents tend to produce offspring who benefit from their own attributes. Parents who have traits likely to be more beneficial to boys, such as large size, strength, and aggression, are more likely to have boys. Parents who have traits likely to be more beneficial to girls, such as physical beauty, are more likely to have girls.

Men value physical appearance more than women do when seeking a partner and so beauty, in general, is a better attribute to pass on to girls than to boys. Physical attractiveness is good for both men and women, but it is much better for women than for men," said research team leader Dr Santoshi Kamazawa, a professor at the London School of Economics.

"Kamazawa's findings do seem to confirm with research on sexual evolution," researcher Dr Mark Thomas, a professor at the Department of Biology at the University College, London told reporters.

Women and Their Dull Sex Life

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 09:52:00 +0000

Though there might be greater sex liberation in today's society, couples are still dissatisfied with their sex lives, with most of them complaining about the lack of thrilling love-making antics in their bedrooms.

According to a survey in the UK, one in 20 women rate their dull sex life as a 'household chore'.

The survey further showed that a quarter of women in the 25- to 34-year-old age-bracket find it difficult to get aroused and that 45 per cent of women rarely or never make the first move for sex.

One in 10 women said that they have sex when they do not want it and regularly fake orgasm.

Meanwhile, 25 per cent of men are snubbed for sex half the time by their regular partners. 10 per cent of males said that they would consider separation after six months of no pleasure, and 25 per cent claimed that they would consider an affair, revealed Zestra, makers of sexual arousal oils.

Day for Love & Luck

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sat, 07 Jul 2007 08:18:00 +0000

This is a day to get hooked, say astrologers. We find out the mystery of 7.7.07

THERE'S A global rush to get married today. Today's the luckiest day of the century. So roll on 7.7.07, and you can make sure it is lucky for you. Astrologer Namita Vadehra says, "It's an extremely lucky and auspicious day. As the number '7' indicates Venus, it's all about love and more love. In fact, numerically '7' is also considered the highest spiritual number, so it results in everlasting happiness. This number is also about being spiritual. If you pop the question to your beloved, chances are you'll hear a 'Yes'. When you add three sevens, you get a total of 21, which is Jupiter and lord of Jupiter is Ganesha, therefore, it is a good day to start new relationships."

Couples in UK and US are rushing to get married on this blissful day. In America inquiries about 7.7 weddings began in 2005, and in Las Vegas, Chapel of the Flowers will host 113 ceremonies. The wedding website theknot.com has registered 38,000 weddings for 7.7, compared to a typical July wedding number of 12,000.

Whatever the reason, today is the wedding day for thousands, including Desperate Housewives star Eva Longoria who will wed NBA champion Tony Parker. According to Arun Bansal, astrologer, "This is a great day for marriages and those who are in love."

And if you're already happily married, then you'll be lucky in money. Arun Bansal adds, "This is a wonderful time for doing business and big projects. It's a great date for making huge profits. Students should be positive as they'll get good results. The timing and the date is perfect to get rid of your tensions and problems." All we'll say is, make the most of this date, and enjoy loving and being loved.

Hey, she's looking at you, dude!

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 09:58:00 +0000

A recent study reveals that women stare more than men do. Love-Lectures.com asks people and finds out if that is truly the case...

The looks are on the men now. They can expect anything from a quick glance, to a lingering stare from the fairer sex. If men have the looks, women will look, says the study by a US college. Most women agree that while it's amusing to watch shy guys look away when they're subjected to such stares, checking out guys can be quite a high.

Singer Anushka totally agrees with this and says, 'Any woman will drool over the hunks. Women certainly eye men, but they do it discreetly. I check out hot men all the time, but from a distance. If the man is really good looking, I walk up to him and compliment him. What's the harm in looking?" she asks.

The way men and women ogle at the opposite sex is different. "When men stare at women they're mostly thinking about sex. With women, it's about admiration. I won't deny that I drool over men like Brad Pitt and George Clooney," says model Maureen Marsh. But, while men look at all women, the fairer sex spends time only on men who are high on good looks. Tv Anchor Sharon engages in harmless ogling when she's abroad, but adds that, "I don't really look at men on the beach since I don't find them attractive in their underwear. But, I do admire the good looking men you find elsewhere."

Model turned actress Anna Johnson feels that women looking at men is a new trend and says, "In our country, women are anyday better looking than men. So, on those rare occasions when you do spot a good looking guy, you tend to shower him with extra attention." Men are certainly lapping up the attention bestowed on them.

You Man's Mood Swings

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 07:10:00 +0000

Trying to figure out the best time to approach a touchy topic, ask your guy for a favour, or convince him to do something you know he'll dread? We all know that women experience hormonal mood swings, but now it has been found that men too, are affected by hormonal highs and lows, but their hormone levels fluctuate daily. Want to know what is the best time to ask a guy for a favour - we will tell you.

If you need his help moving or fixing something...

Ask between 9 pm and 12 am
It should come as no surprise that guys are in the best of moods at night. Besides the obvious frisky factor, this surge in hormones makes him ambitious and determined. This is the perfect time to ask him for a favour. Buying a car? Indulge his competitive streak, and drag him along to help you haggle with the salesman and score a great deal.

If you want to get him to agree to your plans...

Ask between 3 to 4 pm
Trying to convince him to sign up for salsa dancing lessons, or otherwise agree to do something that would normally send men screaming in the opposite direction? Then this late-afternoon window is the perfect opportunity, since his super-low hormone level make him amendable to pretty much anything you throw on the table.

If you want to approach a touchy topic...

Ask between 8 and 10 pm
At this hour, another hormone called oxytocin - the 'cuddle hromone' is on the rise. That means this is a prime time to resolve a lingering spat. You'll probably get met with nothing but a sincere apology and the promise to change his ways.

How to Have A Healthy Sex Life

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sat, 05 May 2007 15:06:00 +0000

Do pop some pepper to boost your sex life. Instead of a romantic dinner, champagne or chocolates, eat spicy food, and pop a pepper. As with many aspects of health, including a healthy sex life, what you put in your body makes a big difference. What counts in sex is circuitry as in nerves, and circulation as in blood. And if you're overweight, lose it.

Eat food high in omega-3 fatty acids such as mackerel, salmon, wild salmon and chilly peppers.

"Omega-3 makes your nervous system function better. Sex is really about circuitry," said research team leader Dr (Ms) Barbara Bartlik, a professor of psychiatry and a sex therapist with the Human Sexuality Programme at Weil Cornell Medical Centre.

Researchers have said that multivitamins and minerals will help too. Both improve the neurological function which contributes to good circulation. Improved circulation results in greater erectile response. To accomplish that, reach for food rich in "L-Arginine" such as granola, oatmeal, peanuts, cashews, walnuts, dairy products, green vegetables, root vegetables, garlic, ginseng, soya beans, chickpeas and seeds.

L-Arginine is helpful for improving sexual functions in men. There haven't been studies done on women, but remember, erectile response is something both sexes share.

"Women have erections too, in their clitoris and the tissue surrounding the vulva," said Ms Bartlik.

"What a man puts in his stomach is important, but the heart is the key that opens the door to sexual performance. From an erection standpoint, anything that's good for your heart is good for your penis," Dr Prof John Mulhall, director of the Sexual Medicine Program at New York Presbyterian, and professor of urology at the WM College of Cornell University told reporters.

Get Passion Back In Your Life

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Fri, 04 May 2007 16:15:00 +0000

Lovemaking is much more about attitude than technique.

1. Touch and to be touched - The body is one big erogenous zone. Let your hands explore the more neglected areas for a greater impact on lovemaking. The feet, for instance, are highly sensitive to touch.

2. Encourage your partner - To prevent worrying, "I'm taking too long" or "This won't work," partners should cheer each other on by using positive statements such as, "I'm enjoying this, take as long as you want."

3. Be in the moment - While making love, put all thoughts out of your head. Instead, focus on enjoying your time. When you catch your mind drifting, bring it back.

4. Don't be inhibited - True sensuality and passion require intimacy, trust and removal of inhibitions. With better understanding, you and your partner can start working on the five senses: sight, smell, hearing, touch and taste. If just thinking about these possibilities gets you heated, you're probably nearer to reinventing your passion than you think.

Bond For The Best

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Wed, 02 May 2007 20:23:00 +0000

Think of having 'intimacy' and not 'sex' all the time. Set aside specific time for intimacy. This might mean an hour away from the house and any possible distractions. Or it could be a bed day, when you have a whole day (and night) together. Here's the kicker to this designated time: no sex. Just intimacy. For those women who've been having sex only because their husband desires it, this will help them explore their sensuality and sexuality. The key is to be conscious of what your body and soul truly want and need, and honour that.

Great Ways to Say 'I Love You'

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Tue, 01 May 2007 18:17:00 +0000

The best ways to say "I love you" are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways. Leo Buscaglia, who wrote and taught about love, says, "Words and deeds that say, 'You enrich my life' go on forever."

- Make sure you say, "I Love You" at least once each day to your spouse.

- Write unexpected love notes.

- Give your mate an unexpected hug, a surprisingly romantic kiss, or a teasing tickle often.

- Share memories by looking at old photographs and talking about memories you share together.

- Schedule a day to just be leisurely together.

- Listen.

- Share why you love your spouse.

- Give the gift of your time by performing trivial chores for your spouse, such as folding the clothes, running on errand, washing the car, etc.

- Don't forget anniversaries and birthdays.

- Smile.

- Blow a kiss from across the room.

- Dance with your spouse in your own living room.

- Hold hands.

- Plan and cook a meal together.

The Good Wife

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 07:10:00 +0000

A good mother can never be a perfect partner. Here we find out why...

Have you ever thought, what does it mean to be a good wife these days. Is it someone who stays at home to raise the children, or who shares the financial burden by going out to work?

According to Times, London some experts believe that as modern life becomes more demanding, what defines a good partner has not only become obscured but has been pushed down the pecking order. So much emphasis is now placed on being a Good Parent, and being a Good Spouse comes a poor third after a) the children and b) the job. Marital conversation is reduced to "Have you got the juice?" "Yes, have you got the wipes?"

It began as the old story: boy meets girl. They hold hands. Soon, boy-girl get married, they have a baby. And the good wife, becomes a perfect parent.

Forget romance, all tenderness is reserved only for the child. Remember, the advice given by her mother to Jerry Hall that to keep a man, a woman must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom seems ever more quaint now that housework is increasingly outsourced, food is fast and marriages become increasingly sexless (witness the emergence of books for the sexless marriage with titles such as Okay, So I Don't Have a Headache, I'm Not in the Mood and For Women Only, which lists techniques that wives use to avoid sex). Has the race to raise the brightest child, get him/her into the best school, put the good wife into the deep freezer!

As soon as a child is born, husband and wife stop having a relationship. They become Parents. It's the tendency to see children as extensions of oneself that make couples live their lives through their kids. The environment today is so fiercely competitive that being a mom or dad is not an easy job. You want your child to be the best in every possible area. It gives mothers great personal gratification.

Laura Schlessinger's book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, suggests that in the age of feminism we have paid too much attention to women's needs and forgotten that men have them, too.

But one-thing's for sure. If there is a crack in the marriage, it's bound to show. Obsession for raising the perfect child is just another factor that adds fuel to the fire. If you are not a good spouse, you'll have to struggle to be a good parent because the child needs attention.

Recent surveys available over the Net list lack of sex and stress of parenting among the top reasons cited for arguing within a marriage. Being a parent is easier than being a spouse because being the latter calls for continuous engagement with the spouse's subjectivity. Couples need to discover each other. They need to swtich roles. There's no point being a perfect parent if you're not a good spouse.

So, what makes a good spouse? Letting natural roles emerge and not fighting them. It translates into the fact that one has to appreciate the subjectivity of the other. A lack of empathy in modern couples stops them from realising that when kids will fly out of their roost, it's the spouse they'd have to return to for love and comfort. The question is would they like to go back to a perfect stranger in the twilight of their lives?

Why do women wear heels?

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 07:01:00 +0000

Or thongs, or corsets? The humble 'man' kind will never know. But here's a survival guide to cope with the peculiarities of the fairer sex

Mystery' is the word to describe women. To say they lead a complicated existence would be the understatement of the century. WE seek to unravel some of the everyday peculiarities of the female of the species - from mood swings to thongs.

"Pain is an integral part of human existence but more so with looking beautiful. How else would one explain their penchant for high heels, stilettos, thongs, tight skirts, and piercing?" says Steve Mueller, a team leader at a consulting firm.

Jim Green, a call cenre employee, has an interesting tale to narrate about his girlfriend's penchant for high heels. "She loves her four inch pencil heels, that I must say, look very sexy on her. One weekend, she twisted her ankle while dancing at a party and was advised to avoid heels for ten days by the doctor. To my surprise, I found her back in her heels on Monday," says Jim.

Another important tip with women? Keep your style fundas to yourself. You might think you are scoring points by being nice to her, but she might find you a village oaf. "I know of a girl who dumped her boyfriend for being too candid about his thoughts on strapless lingerie," says David Kent, an insurance agent.

Are Women More Into Toyboys?

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Wed, 25 Apr 2007 09:48:00 +0000

The days of seeing a woman on the arm of a man old enough to be her father might soon be over, for an increasing number of the fairer sex are ditching sugar daddies for toy boys. And, this information comes from Office of National Statistics (ONS), in the UK, which has the figures to back this phenomenon. The ONS found that 26 per cent of marriages now has wives who are older than their husbands - a number almost double than the early 1960s.

The organisation has also found that there has also been a drop in the number of men who take women younger to them by five years or more as their spouses. This number has dropped to around 50 per cent from nearly two-thirds over the same period. According to Professor Patrick O'Donnell, a specialist in the psychology of interpersonal attraction at Glasgow University, this reversal of older women marrying younger men is due to the challenging of traditional ideas that state men are only attracted to younger women. "There is a lot of debate about this issue. As women gain in economic quality, they no longer marry for economic protection in the way they might have in the past - leading them to marry older men. So instead they marry purely on the grounds of attraction. The idea that women would go for older men purely because they find them attractive is a fallacy," he said.

Relationship counsellor Denise Knowles feels that older women are seeing younger men as someone who they can have fun with, and for men, it is a case of finding the older woman more confident and in-charge. "For many women, the career has been the big thing, but they are now looking for somebody to have fun with, and also who doesn't necessarily want to have children. They want somebody who is young enough not to feel threatened by their career," she said. "For the younger man it's not simply the case of pursuing a 'mother figure'. An older woman can come across as being a lot more confident about herself and this can be very attractive to a younger man. It can mean that they enter into an equal relationship," she added.

Philip Hodson, fellow of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, added: "This has a lot to do with women's increased position as a sex. They are doing better than men, with more powerful jobs, better education. They are therefore able to be more demanding, and essentially doing what men used to do: go for the younger, more beautiful models. It's a slight twist on the sexism issue."

Things You Didn't Know About Aphrodisiacs

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 16:11:00 +0000

1) Respecting your partner and understanding their needs can be the best turn on, say sexologists

2) Viagra is not an aphrodisiac, per se. One needs sexual stimulation for the famed drug to work

3) Intrinsa, a patch containing testosterone, has been approved for women with low libido in the UK

4) Many foods (bananas, asparagus) are considered aphrodisiacs because they resemble the penis or testicles

5) Henna paste has a peculiar scent and the odour has been described by some as an aphrodisiac

6) Erectile dysfunction is highly correlated with poor physical health and inactivity. Being fit boosts self-confidence too.

7) Alcohol, a false aphrodisiac, merely lowers inhibitions and raises the level of one's irrationality.

8) Sometimes sexual dysfunction is a result of psychological disorder. Sex therapists can serve as aphrodisiac.

9) Some 'wild' aphrodisiacs include; tiger bones (illegal); rhino horn (outlawed); jackal bile (weird); snake blood (creepy)

10) The word aphrodisiac is named after Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sexual love and beauty.

An 'EX' or a Friend?

noreply@blogger.com (Dandy) — Mon, 23 Apr 2007 18:31:00 +0000

Can you be friends after a break up? Do you know where to draw the line?

To be involved with a man or woman and have no strings attached might seem 'to some' like the ideal relationship. Suppose you have met someone and the love between the two of you is great but nothing besides that is in place.

You do like this person but besides the sex and their company you are not very interested in a relationship. So, is it possible to go back to being just friends and remove the sexuality completely? For some, you may even wonder if it is worth remaining friends? The answer is yes; if you do get along with a person and enjoy their company, it is possible to go back to being 'just friends'.

The first thing to do is ask yourself why you want to remain in this person's acquaintance. Yes love can change a lot of things between two people, but it should not be the reason to lose out on knowing what could be a great guy or girl. If the two of you are mature enough to leave aside the love angle and remain platonic, then do so. It is hard to come by good friends and if you have found one, keep him or her.

If you decide to remain friends, you need to figure out if the other person wants the same thing. It might be a little hard for you to be just friends with someone who wants more from you than just a casual conversation or a heart to heart. So, first, sit down and talk about whether or not he or she is interested in knowing you simply as a buddy.

Once you decide to remain friends, the best way to go about ensuring your intentions would be to avoid spending too much time alone with him or her, at least for the first few times. When the two of you meet, do so in the company of common friends or at public places. Try to avoid the night outs. Instead, meet up with him or her during the day and spend the entire day together if you want. This does not mean you don't go out together at night at all. Just, initially, meet during the day and once you have an idea of where to draw the line, you can always party together again.

Despite your best efforts, you may still find yourself in a situation where you're tempted to 'relapse'. If you ever feel like you might give in to temptation, part ways to avoid the inevitable consequences.

Be aware that you may be on different time lines. Just because the time may feel right for you to start being friends again, doesn't mean that the time is right for him or her. Pick up on the hints if he or she seems like they need some space, and be willing to give it to him or her.

So be mature and know when to draw the line, so as to avoid losing someone who could be a good friend to you.

Sometimes all you want to do is get things back to the way they once were. It is no easy task, but it can be done. Check out these tips and learn how to go back to being just friends.

Love is... living apart

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Sun, 22 Apr 2007 08:17:00 +0000

Having your own space in a relationship -- seems to be essential. Today more and more couples are demanding his and hers toilets, dual kitchens and dressing rooms, writes Matt Woolsey in Forbes. And not only that. A study conducted by the National Association of Home Builders found that 60% of upscale homes (homes with more than 4,000 sq ft) will feature two master bedrooms by 2015.

At first sign the step looks to be a retrograde one. But experts feel that separate bedrooms will serve a couple much better in the long run. The National Sleep Foundation insist that the 75% of Americans who are light sleepers or snore will benefit with a separate bedroom.

It's not just sleep. A separate bedroom could actually work wonders for your sex life. Therapists insist the couple could return to the mystery and romance of their honeymoon days with separate bedrooms.

Also, it's a recognition that marriage today doesn't mean you have to compromise on your needs. Earlier a partner who slept in another room was seen as a sign of marital blues. Today that social stigma is vanishing.

It's not just the bed. Two thirds of builders surveyed in the NAHB study said there was an increased demand for a second kitchen. It doesn't stop at the kitchen. Separate bathrooms, dressing rooms, telephone lines and offices are also increasing in demand.

The trend seems to have begun, as most trends do, with the stars. Comedian Steve Martin and Victoria Tennant bought two apartments in San Remo in New York Upper West Side, when they got married in 1986. But the separate spaces couldn't help the marriage as the couple divorced in 1994. And sometimes separate spaces can bring you closer than you think: to the wrong person. Nelson Rockefeller had divorced first wife Mary Todhunter Rockefeller to marry his second wife Happy.

But he was determined to have his favourite floor of their Fifth Avenue apartment, with him. Rockefeller purchased the apartment next door, tore down a wall and secured his floor. He however lived next door to his ex-wife for 40 years.

Rockfeller's story highlights the problem with separate spaces. Experts say that by becoming too attached to them, the space can actually allow you to distance yourself from the marriage. Especially, at a time when you need to connect. This can even complicate things once the marriage is over: in divorce settlements.

However, today such problems could be a thing of the past. Experts say the increased openness of couples towards personal space suggests it is being used today for the betterment of the marriage. Personal space today indicates that most couples are happy and secure in their relationship. They go about their daily business trusting their partner. And that can only be a good thing. Right?

When Kids Are Around

noreply@blogger.com (Brittany Stephen) — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 16:51:00 +0000

Most couples feel that their sex life changes after they have children. Whether you have a new-born baby, a toddler, teenager or all three, you have to plan-out privacy. It's difficult to find the time and energy for lovemaking and biology sometimes isn't much help. For the first few months, a woman's hormones are pre-programmed for feeding and nurturing your newborn.

So, 80 per cent of new mothers report lowered desire. Both of you may not feel like being together in bed, but that does not mean that you can't be affectionate to each other. There are many ways through which you can show affection to your partner. Talking about this will help you to support each other and and help you to maintain intimacy.

By the time, the baby becomes a toddler, your energy will hopefully be fully restored. However it can be even harder to find the space and time. You need to develop a balance between your kid's time and time for each other. Make the kids go to bed early, so that you get some time alone. You can spend the evening doing chores or watching television. Making certain rules for privacy will set a good model, as there's nothing wrong if kids realise that their parents need time for themselves.