Not so 'fast', buddy!

So, you want to indulge in some no-strings-attached fun? Here's what to keep in mind...

WHAT TO DO

- Do set out terms early on. If you're hooking up with an ex or friend, make sure nobody wants to get back together or get serious. Emotional attachment and casual sex don't mix.

- Do enjoy yourself. Total carnal pleasure is the whole point of a commitment-free fling. So ditch your body hang-ups.

- Do go back to your place after you're done. Don't linger over at his place. That way, you'll be safe in your own home. However, if you insist on staying at his place, SMS a friend to tell him/her of your whereabouts.

- Do be upfront about spending the night. Best to tell him you have an early conference rather than do a midnight bolt straight after getting horizontal. Even if he was that bad, it's still discourteous.

- Do insist on protection, if it comes to that. Remember, nothing, absolutely nothing can go ahead unless and until one of you uses protection.

WHAT TO AVOID

- Don't get hung up on the 'I'll call you' chat in the morning. Sure, these three words instill more stomach lurching fear than anything else, but they're synonymous with one-night stands and part of the practice.

- Don't use the 'I don't do this often' line. He either thinks you do or you don't. Whichever, he doesn't have time for a discussion on moral values. He's there for fun as you are.

- Don't bring your baggage to the bedroom. We're talking emotional baggage. If you need to open your heart, call a friend the next day. Get emotional and your one-night stand will tell his friends you are a bunny boiler.

- Don't expect sweet afterthoughts. One night standers rarely offer hugs and don't be surprised if he rolls over after or heads out soon after it's over. It hurts. But you're older. Learn from it.