Do Men Like Successful Women?

How do men deal with the situation where their partners are more successful than them?

A recent study by british researchers suggests that the higher a woman's IQ, the less chance she has to marry. Does that mean that women who are achievers are less desirable? What happens when the woman is more successful than the man? Is it tough for the man to adjust to the adulation that the woman receives and he doesn't? The answer is a resounding 'No', with the people emphasising that they are happy being cheerleaders for their successful partners.

The IQ Factor

Gone are the days when men preferred a woman who just listened adoringly. Today's successful man wants a woman who is his equal, and even, better than him! Says Andrew Jones, a manager at a software firm, "If a person is intelligent and confident himself, why should it matter whether his partner is also bright and successful? My girlfriend was always doing better than me in college, and very successful in her career. That makes me feel proud, not threatened." Similary for Honours student William Johnston, "A successful girlfriend means that I have good taste! Seriously my girlfriend is always established as an advertising executive while I am still studying. Actually that gives me the freedom to pursue my passion and not worry about providing for her."

Forget the ego

Sharing the limelight when it is shining bright for your woman can cause ego hassles. But, that is when the man needs to realise that it's more important to be happy for your partner. Actor David Miller reminisces, "There was a phase when I was not getting any work. My wife, Maria was busy with her modelling and doing quite well. I was taking care of the housework while she was the breadwinner. It could have ruined our relationship if I had let go problems creep in. But, we discussed our options and realised that it was the best time for me to try out as an actor and not worry about who is earning the money." Adds market consultant Alan Duckworth, "Earlier, men felt that they had to show their superiority. But these days, it's only men with low self-esteem who worry if their partner is more successful, it's a chance for the man to learn and improve."

Old is not gold

The older generation still feels that it's a man's world. Says Steven Baker, a bank executive, "When my wife wanted to set up her own business, the elders in the family raised a lot of objections." He continues, "My wife is now highly successful and who cares where the money or fame comes from? It is there for both of us, that's what is important. We hope that our elders will come around to our view eventually as well."