Fighting the Break-up Blues

Feeling hurt and angry after a breakup? There's a right way and a wrong way to get past the pain. We help you find the Dos of healing a break-up:

Do watch your vocabulary

We all have an internal conversation with ourselves. Since it shapes our outlook, be careful about the language you choose. Words like "nightmare," "terrible" and "horrible" are catastrophic terms. If you use them you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Spend more time focusing on what you can do.

Do define your real intentions

After you trying to move past the break-up, or are you hoping to get back with your ex? Define the emotional goal. You won't move on until you've truly accepted that the relationship is over.

Do allow yourself to own your feelings

You can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger, your sadness whatever emotions you may be experiencing. It's better to be angry with someone else than to blame yourself.

Do learn to trust again

Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest.

Here you can find more information on how to manage a break up