Why Don't You Love Me?
Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back is not unusual. But it can be one of the most painful experiences you ever face. Being besotted with someone who doesn't feel the same way can really hurt. You may believe you've found 'the one' and but if that special one reveals that they don't feel the same way, it can be devastating.
According to experts, unreciprocated love hits grown-ups worst of all, since their choices are likely to be more mature. But, however old you are, the shock and pain of unrequited love can be almost unbearable. So what do you do with all that pain? How do you deal with accepting that you can't have the one who you were so certain was yours?
GRIEVE YOUR LOSS
First of all, allow yourself to grieve. You've lost something. Tell all your friends about it, confide in them. Take all the comfort you can get. Venting your sorrow can prevent you falling into a depression. This is not a secret that you need to be ashamed of. There is nothing wrong with you. Things just didn't work out and you're sad about that. Look after yourself emotionally after the crash and you will recover.
LOOK TO THE FUTURE
As soon as you feel up to it, start thinking about the future. If you don't have things to look forward to, you'll probably end up looking back more than you should, which can result in bitterness. Also, spoil yourself a bit. Now more than ever you deserve flowers and gifts.
So indulge yourself and spend a bit on the things that make you feel good. Rejection often makes you feel as if you are worthless and these little treats won't take the pain away, but they will make you feel that you are worth it. They will make you happy so indulge in happiness not sorrows.
According to experts, unreciprocated love hits grown-ups worst of all, since their choices are likely to be more mature. But, however old you are, the shock and pain of unrequited love can be almost unbearable. So what do you do with all that pain? How do you deal with accepting that you can't have the one who you were so certain was yours?
GRIEVE YOUR LOSS
First of all, allow yourself to grieve. You've lost something. Tell all your friends about it, confide in them. Take all the comfort you can get. Venting your sorrow can prevent you falling into a depression. This is not a secret that you need to be ashamed of. There is nothing wrong with you. Things just didn't work out and you're sad about that. Look after yourself emotionally after the crash and you will recover.
LOOK TO THE FUTURE
As soon as you feel up to it, start thinking about the future. If you don't have things to look forward to, you'll probably end up looking back more than you should, which can result in bitterness. Also, spoil yourself a bit. Now more than ever you deserve flowers and gifts.
So indulge yourself and spend a bit on the things that make you feel good. Rejection often makes you feel as if you are worthless and these little treats won't take the pain away, but they will make you feel that you are worth it. They will make you happy so indulge in happiness not sorrows.
1 Comments:
At 1:10 AM, Anonymous said…
Dandy,
How about some advice on what to do when a really close friendship starts to become something more on only one side - and it's almost become a relationship where we spend most evenings together and most weekends. Once the discussion to clarify happens, how do I, as the one with feelings beyond friendship, redefine boundaries that will allow us to keep the friendship without overstepping?
Sad friend
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