Be Honest! Trust Issues in Relationships - Help, Advice Regaining Trust in Your Relationship

Whether entering a new relationship or trying to re-build an existing one, trust is an issue that needs to be dealt with sensitivity. At times a past incident hinders people from trusting their partner. But the lack of this vital ingredient stunts the growth of a relationship.

However, building trust isn't easy. It is a gradual process and may take months, even years. But there are things that you can do to help your partner to begin to rely on you...

KEEP YOUR PARTNER INFORMED

When you are planning to make some major change in your life make sure you let your partner know beforehand. There is nothing more annoying than hearing about it from someone else. If you are going for a complete makeover or shifting, include him/her in the decision-making process.

BELIEVE IN YOUR MATE

If you expect your partner to have faith in you, then you've got to give him/her the same in return. If your lover is starting a new business or trying to learn new languages, utter a few words of encouragement. Let your partner know that you fully support him/her and will always be ready to help.

SHARE YOUR NEEDS

When talking to your partner let him/her know exactly what you like and need. Remember, your partner is not a mind reader and cannot guess what makes you happy. He/she will appreciate the fact that you are opening up and talking. And that is the road to having a fulfilling relationship.

COMMUNICATE

In any relationship, it is important to be frank and not conceal important things. And if you are open with your partner then they too will feel comfortable with you. But if you hide something and they find out, the bond you share might suffer. So just be open from the beginning and avoid secrets.

BE YOURSELF

When with your lover it is best to simply be who you are. Don't put on a fake face and pretend to be someone you are not. Remember, your partner knows you well and will be able to notice the change. If you want to rebuild the trust in your relationship, try to know that you don't need to change to impress him/her, but you need to show him/her who you really are so that he/she can trust you again.

STICK TO YOUR OPINION

While many believe that agreeing with your partner all the time leads to a good relationship, this is not true. It is good to have a mind of your own and express yourself from time to time. If you constantly agree with your lover, he/ she will think there is something wrong. So stick to your arguments once in a while.

ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

It is good to create certain boundaries in relationships. You should let your partner know clearly if any of their habits tend to irritate you. Maybe you don't like your lover going for movies alone with a member of the opposite sex or if his/her relationship with a work colleague bothers you. Share what you need to feel secure in your relationship and ask him/her to do the same.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

If you have made a mistake and lied about something, own up to your fault. Don't pretend as if it didn't happen or it will make your partner doubt you even more. Everyone goofs up. So if you admit to it immediately, there is a greater chance that your partner will forgive you and let it go.

Restoring Trust After The Affair Is Possible

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3-Step Method for Coming into Agreement

Step 1: Stating What You Need to Come into Agreement About

The first thing you need to do to come into agreement is to make a definitive statement about what you need to come into agreement about. This could be anything that you are struggling with or need some reassurance about in your relationship. It could be a relatively trivial matter or one that is truly troubling your relationship. Whatever it is, it needs to be specific so that you can look at specific actions you might take to change it.

Step 2: Figuring out Solutions to the Problem

The next step in the process is to figure out a solution to the problem you are facing or a statement of reassurance about the issue you are discussing. Again, this is as varied as individuals are, and you might come up with a million different solutions for a million different problems.

Step 3: Putting Your Plan into Effect

The final step in this process is to do what you say you are going to do. Once you come up with a solution (or a series of solutions) that you both agree is workable, it is time to put that plan of action into effect and see if it works.

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About the Author:

Dr. Frank Gunzburg is a licensed counselor in Maryland and has been specializing is helping couples restore their marriage for over 30 years. He is also the author of How to Survive an Affair, a step-by-step healing system that can help a couple repair their relationship after it has been shattered from an affair. If your relationship has been damaged by an affair and you would like a step-by-step system for repairing your relationship, then please visit Dr. Gunzburg's site for more information: http://www.surviveanaffair.com

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