Should You Stay or Go?

Does your relationship leave you feeling lonely? Here we tell you how to figure out whether it's time to call it quits...

Your relationship is definitely not terrible. Your partner doesn't make you feel miserable and neither are you both up in arms 24/7. However, your relationship lacks that zing. So what next, becomes the big question mark.

Here are some tips on tackling this heart-wrenching decision-making process:

What Are Your Needs?

Though matters of heart can get complicated, happiness in a relationship depends on a simple formula. You look at what you want and need, you look at what's real. In a situation where you feel as if your partner is failing to give you your heart's desire, the first step is to let them know there is a problem. Then, try and reach compromises that work for both of you. However, if your partner, instead of understanding the problem, gets defensive, it's time to say good byes.

Think Back

Think about the honeymoon period. Looking, back would you now say that things were really good between you then? For example, maybe you were touched that your partner always included you in outings with his/her friends, until you realised that every single date was planned to suit your partner and his/her preferences, without any real consideration what you like. If life with your lover has never been great, chances are it probably won't get much better.

Forget Forgiveness

If you've recently threatened your partner about calling it quits and his or her behaviour has suddenly turned extremely rosy, don't presume all is fine. The sudden change in behaviour will definitely seem like a welcome expression of love, but if it is a part of your lover's up-and-down behaviour pattern, it's important to stand your ground. Being too forgiving only sets you up for future pain and disappointment.

Trust Valuable Opinions

If everyone, from your mother to your friends and colleagues, agree that your partner is not good enough, then you should probably listen to them. Don't forget to consider what your life is going to be like if no one around you likes your partner. Remember substandard relationships don't one day become great they just get worse.

Are you in an unhappy relationship? Considering Leaving?

If you've been considering leaving your relationship but don't know what you should do. There's a brand new ebook we would like to recommend called
"Should You Stay or Should You Go?"  The book is written by relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins and is filled with hundreds powerful questions and insights that will help you make that difficult relationship decision. 

If you are considering whether to stay in or leave your present relationship, we feel this book will help you come to a more clear, conscious choice about whether to stay in or leave your relationship. 

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