Love Obsession! Signs of an Obsessive Relationship, Help Dealing with Obsessed Partner

Now-a-days, it is very common to find people in love with each other after a very brief period of close friendship. Feelings are shared, gifts exchanged and vows made. But now, your lover seems to be always possessed by you and your thoughts. His deluge of love is irking you and interrupting your daily schedule. Fighting on trivial matters has become very common and he seems to be demanding an unacceptable portion of your time. Beware…these are all signs of an insalubrious obsessed relationship.

Obsessed Lovers- Are You a Victim of Obsessive Relationship?

Here are a few indications which will help you to realize if you are caught in an obsessed relationship.

Over Indulgence

This is the most common indication generally perceived in your early dating period. If your lover shows no respect to your requests of observing your time and place limitations, it is due to his wrongly perceived sense of right over you. However hard you might try, but your lover won’t get rid of his habits. They might cease for a day or two, but then he returns to his old habits. It is time for you to be alert and keep a check on him.

Personal Space Problems

Love birds calling and texting each other frequently all day long is quite usual. But when he starts trying to keep up with you despite of your pleadings that you can’t devote time to him then and need a break, you need to be careful. His presence all day long leaves you smothered and longing for personal space. Moreover your failure to answer his calls or mails infuriates him and leaves him in a blazing rage. If all these things have place in your daily life, you need to be very careful.

Spying

An obsessive lover frequently tries spying your relations with others. He gets them cross-checked by means like mutual friends and other sources. He questions rigorously your daily schedule and wants a detailed account of time spent by you. Sometimes, he even tailgates you without your knowledge and keeps a track of all your activities. If all these are common in your life, then it is high time that you end this relationship and move on to a better future.

Domination over Social Life

In a relationship with a possessed partner, your social life is shadowed by his constant interference. He instructs you as to whom to talk and whom to ignore. He will want that you stop talking to all other friends of the opposite gender and even to certain other friends. Refusal to do so ensures hot arguments and exchange of taunts and accusing behavior. You are never supposed to tolerate all this mess and the advice is to terminate this relationship.

Break-Up

Now that you have resolved to break up with your obsessed lover, don’t be in a hurry to convey this to him. He will go crazy and will end up doing something dangerous. He might even hurt himself and create problems for you. He will keep on harassing you afterwards with emotional blackmailing. So first you need to get appropriate counseling for him and arrange for things to rollback in a mild manner. Take this part of action seriously.

If you are looking forward for further guidance in this context, then I will highly recommend the book “How to Spot a Dangerous Man”. I found this book very precise and informative regarding obsessive lovers and how to spot and deal with them. You will be deeply contended when you finish reading this book over your decision of buying it.

I just wanted to say to all those people who are in a similar reltionship; the best thing to do is get out now because its almost always ends traumatically. It is never good to put up with any kind of obsessive relationship. - Amber - 2007-05-22