Male Midlife Crisis - Signs, Symptoms, Recovery, Help, Management

The ignorance that a committed relationship will last forever is sweet, but this feeling vanishes after some time. After 2 decades of highs and lows of a committed relationship, you can be sure of one thing that the ride is not as smooth as it appears. No doubt there is a reason for everything a person does, but this is valid, if the person knows what he is doing.

If your man’s age falls in between 40 and 60 years, there is a lot of chance that he is not hurting you knowingly, it is just that he is not able to fully understand what he is doing. His mind and his actions are not in sync. These things happen before and during midlife which results in midlife crisis.

How to Deal with Male Midlife Crisis?

Symptoms Pertaining to Midlife Crisis

There are certain symptoms which indicate that midlife crisis exists. These include:

• He behaves in a different manner like he doesn’t find his interesting.
• He fights unnecessarily.
• He talks about peace of mind and changing lifestyle along with the need of space.
• You see abrupt changes in him from his thinking to his diet or even hairstyle.
• He seems confused and starts taking time to think about everything.

Men Being Impulsive

When it comes to being unpredictable, men are not doing it intentionally. Feeling old might happen when they look through the eyes of their grandchildren or simply when they look into a mirror. Talking in terms of maturity and ethics, some men believe that they become better persons when they complete 40 years of existence. Most men remain committed to the love of their life and they feel that their relationship has been redefined with time.
 
What is Midlife Crisis?

The most important part for women to understand is that they can influence the effects of midlife crisis but cannot change the outcome drastically. Masculine midlife crisis eats a relationship gradually. For him, you are a part of the problem and that may persuade him to look for other women to enjoy his youthfulness all over again. You would ask “How on earth can someone even understand a person who doesn’t understand himself?” The worst part is whatever you may try, but the end result would be more or less similar. He actually doesn’t mean to hurt you but would still manage to do it.

Getting Older

He starts getting older with weight gain and whitening of hair along with wrinkles visible on his face. He might lose his sex drive or even suffer from impotency at times. He is actually experiencing new emotions now. He is trying his best to resist being and looking old. Male midlife crisis effects a person emotionally and physically (its often called male menopause) which isn’t good for people involved with him.

What Can You Do?

You would have so many questions now. Coming to the solution, as it is his problem even the solution would be his. Don’t try to explain as he might not listen. You might be the last person he will talk to. He might even blame you for all this, which is absolutely wrong.

But you need to understand that all this is normal. Also, he requires your help to go through the process. Once you know these things, you would be able to cope with it. It will eventually help him in living a more dignified life.
 
Recommended Reading: Men in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway

As midlife is an important stage of a person’s progress with respect to age, you can be sure you are being guided by a person who has not only experienced the situation but who has used it to his growth. Jim Conway manages to write in a way which will be help you to understand yourself with impetus on how to deal effectively with this state.

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I've been looking for answers for my husbands behavior. We have been together for 17 years. It's been two months, and I finally figured out it was a Mid-Life Crisis he's going through. We haven't really spoken to each other, but we are still living in the same house with our 13 year old daughter. I've been giving him space, washing his laundry and cooking his food. He has been going out every night to a smaller corner store where he meets his friends and hang out. He said that it's all over between us, but I told him that I wouldn't be leaving him, so he would have to leave us first. It's been two months. I cried everyday since he acted as if I was his enemy, but I stopped. I've been preparing for the worst, cleaning up my credit and old debits. But I've also been very supportive to him. Giving him his space and not asking too many questions, gives him comfort that he won't be harrassed in his own home. I hope that am on top on the situation, and I pray that all goes well and he stays with us. If not, I will be heading back home, hopefully prepared. Thanks for having such an informative website. This subject needs to spoken of more, so that people like us know what's going on in their lives. Thanks again, Y - Y - 2007-05-18

You are so right about the signs of mid-life-crisis coz my hubby is going thru it now. He left me 3 months ago and im still numb but ok now. - jenny - 2007-07-26

This has opened my eyes to the probability of male midlife crisis being the reason for my marriage falling apart. My husband has been gone for nine months, but in the entire time, he has not completely been out of sight and certainly not out of mind. He filed for divorce, than came to the courthouse and stopped it at the eleventh hour. Since then, it has been 4 months and nothing has really changed. I have asked him to see a Dr. or a therapist, thinking he was clinically depressed, but he refuses to listen or admit there might be a mental problem. He has been caught and confronted about his affair. He says it's over, but I can't believe a darned thing he says anymore. We have been married for a long time and I am not an unattractive or dull woman by any means. The man is driving me insane!!! He won't commit to anything other than not committing to anything. All I have are a million questions and no answers. Thank GOD, I do have GOD and my wonderful Christian counselor, or otherwise I probably would be locked up. - Tina - 2007-08-04