Are You Dealing with Difficult Times to Express Your Feelings to Her?

'I Need More Time' Is that what you want to say each time your girlfriend says 'I love you'? Here's how you can deal with the situation without hurting her...

Do You Have Problems Expressing Your Feelings When It Comes To Love?

Many psychologists believe that it is difficult for men to express their feeling as compared to women. It is even more difficult if they are confused. For some, being in a relationship is easy by expressing their desire is something difficult. Waiting for the right time is more of an excuse than an answer. They are not avoiding those 3 magic words on purpose but the basic reason is that they need time.

Do you fear commitment? Do you take time when your girlfriend expresses her love for you? If you need tips in dealing with such complicated situations, read on...

Start With Something Less Committal

If your partner has managed to say those 3 words, ‘I love you’ and you need time to respond or if you are not sure, then the best way to reassure her is to go for a safe response. You could start with how much you care for her. The advantage is that you are telling the truth and being honest to your partner.

Your girlfriend might get upset but she will be happy to hear that you care about her. It is good to be honest about your feelings. Most of her questions would be put to rest and she might even smile, so you won’t need to explain anything as of now. She might get a hint that she was too fast.

Be Emotional

If you are honest about your feelings, it will serve as a good emotional statement. She might not force the pace again on the relationship.

Talk About your Past

If you have been hurt earlier and this is what is stopping you, you can definitely talk about this. Even if she explains that she is not like your ex flame, you are not obliged to express your love- at least at that moment. When people say how hurt or betrayed they have felt, you can be sure that the girl in question won’t argue. She loves you and would not like to hurt you. This buys you time to come to a decision.

Creating that Situation

Divert her mind. Spilling the drink may not be a bad idea. Make sure you don’t spill the drink on her. If you manage to make a mess, the 2 of you would take at least some time to get away with the mess. But this shows that you are confused about the relationship. Get creative if you need time and don’t want to hurt your girlfriend. Whatever you do, just don’t hurt someone who loves you with all her heart.

Now Coming to What Men Say

I am a straight forward person and come to the point directly. Instead of giving flowers to my girl and letting her figure out what is on my mind, I would be better off with speaking my mind. I am better with words than actions as words speak louder than actions at times - Michael Allen, Journalist

Men, I think are always busy with something or the other and they are not used to expressing their feelings through words, hence they substitute words with actions. But you can never deny the fact that the most romantic poets are men - Mike Pederson, Photographer

Expressing your feelings and emotions to your partner is the most important thing. Communication is the key to a great relationship. If you like them or if you are hurt by something of theirs, you need to talk about this. Let them know how you feel.

Taking professional help is also not a bad idea. When all things are considered, I still believe that women are better at expressing than men. -- Ron Smith, Artist

Recommended Reading: - Magical Tactics by Mark Raymond

Most men feel clueless when it comes to women. Let’s face it; most men need help when they need to increase the pace of a relationship or to slow down things. As the title suggests, Mark Raymond’s book is filled with many magical tactics with answers to common problems related to love. The problems may come up while expressing your desires to the opposite sex or even if you need time when your girlfriend proposes you suddenly.

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