Bond Forever? Before You Get Back Together With Your Ex Boyfriend / Girlfriend

If one of your New Year resolutions is to get back with your old flame, here's how to go about it. Read on...

Getting back together with an ex might be a relief at first, ending weeks of misery where you missed each other and wondered why on earth you split up in the first place.

But what usually begins as a heady romantic reunion, full of promises to never leave each other's side, can rapidly deteriorate into arguments and sulking as you discover that not only are the old problems still there, but you've found new reasons to fight too. Before you jump back on the cosy sofa of your old relationship, it's essential to look in minute detail at your reasons for going back, otherwise you may find you're carrying baggage from the past forwards into the next phase.

Ask yourself if it could be that neither of you can be bothered to get back out into the dating world making getting back together the easy - and lazy option? If you haven't met anyone yourself while you've been apart, what you're feeling could be plain old jealousy rather than the realisation that it was true love. Additionally, it takes time to adjust to being single again, and you're bound to miss the comfort of your old relationship.

Also remember that when a relationship ends, for whatever reason, it's tempting to look back on the good times with rose-tinted specs as the anger and frustrations fade. But if things had been going well surely you would still be together and would have worked at any issues that came up? If the relationship stalled and problems couldn't be solved, do you realistically believe that you're both going to find the impetus to make it work a second time around?

Don't rush back into getting back together. Start dating each other instead and spend time with each other during the weekend. Make an effort to do things differently to ensure you don't fall back into old patterns. Try new restaurants and bars and take up a hobby you can enjoy together such as salsa dancing - in short, do anything to help breathe new life into your relationship.

It's essential to not only talk about what went wrong but to also look at why you didn't talk about the problems at the time. Be patient and let each person have their say without interrupting them.

Talk about what has gone on in the interim for each of you - be honest about what you've been doing so that you don't start the next stage of the relationship with recriminations every time there's an argument.

It's simple really. When you sit together and think about what you want from your relationship and where do you see it going in the next few years, everything will fall into place. It is advisable to not take decisions in haste but to think over what your are planning to do.

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