How to Overcome Fear of Intimacy? - Dealing with Intimacy Problems in Relationships

Building Trust in Your Marriage & Relationships

Trust is not something that comes to people too easily in today's world. There are many things that taint our faith in things and people. Therefore, before getting intimate with someone, individuals can often feel a deep fear as to whether or not they can trust their partner. Here are some of the reasons what you can do to help your partner.

Self Image

Every individual, man or woman has some issue with some part of their body and are not too confident about their image. While there are people who do something about it, like exercise or develop their body, others choose to crawl into a shell and avoid doing something about their negative self image. Such people suffer from some kind of inferiority complex and this gets expressed in their relationship. They might fear intimacy thinking that they will have to expose themselves to their partner and are so afraid of rejection that they would rather not be in a relationship than face their insecurity. If your partner fits into this category you need to give them reassurance and allow them to feel special. Let them know that you love them not for their body but for who they are as a person.

No Experience

Another reason why people could fear of intimacy is because of in-experience. If your partner has had less experience than you when it comes to relationships or sexuality, they might think that they can not live up to your standards. Sometimes the fear stems from the fact that they probably do not know very much about emotional bonding and are therefore new to the whole love game. In such cases you need to take things slow and gain their trust and eventually they will come around.

Past Love

This is probably one of the most common reasons why people tend to get cynical and fear getting close to someone. If your partner's past relationships were bitter or abusive it could scar them, and leave them beleiving that love is never for real. Getting over heart break is never easy, and if your partner has suffered in the past and if their trust has been betrayed, it will be all the more difficult for him or her to trust anyone ever again. It will take a lot of effort on your part to help your partner regain their faith in love. Be patient and, most important, be honest, because once you break somebody's trust it is very hard to regain it.

Been there, done that

Sometimes there is a problem with intimacy because an individual has had a little too much experience; none of which has been positive. In this case there is a general diregard for love and affection because on some level such people turn emotionally frigid. This kind of cynicism is not just towards love but towards the world in general. To reignite the love in such a person, means not only would you have to be sensitive on a intimate level but also extend your affection to the world and let him or her know that it is not such a bad place after all.

In the end, it all comes down to trust. If your partner is afraid to trust, shower him or her with love and understanding.

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