Sex up your love life

If your partner's upset about something, then his body language will reveal it...

Is your partner not his or her usual self in bed? There could be times when you feel that your partner isn't comfortable with you in bed. And while your partner might not be willing to confront you with the issue, his body language can say a lot.

If you can take these hints and act upon them, you might save your partner the embarrassment of bringing the topic up later or when you're in the middle of a nookie. So, read on to find out what might be keeping your partner from being at ease in bed.

Your partner won't look at you:

If your lover lets you get cosy but won't even look up at you, something is definitely up. And not in a good way. If everytime you lean in to kiss, he turns away or doesn't open his eyes, there is definitely a problem.

Possible Reasons: If he won't let your mouth get anywhere near his, you might have bad breath or he might have bad breath; or if you went down on him, he might find it "distasteful" to kiss afterwards.

Fix it: The next time you're having sex, pull out and make your way to his face; in a movie-romance way, gently hold his head in your hands and kiss. If you feel like he still wants to pull away, let him, and then ask what the deal is. The only way to figure out why your lover is reacting that way is by asking him directly.

Your lover's expressions are stoic:

If you're giving everything to it but you find your lover is staring into space, something is indeed wrong.

Possible reasons: It's possible that your lover doesn't like sex much. It's also possible that he might want to be engaged in some other sex act but is afraid to tell you about it. Maybe, your lover's upset over something and sex is the last thing he wants to do at this point of time.

Fix it: Put your lover on top and tell him you want to watch him enjoy. Or, when you're not having sex, ask him what it is all about. Maybe indulging in gentle foreplay and switching to cuddling will help him open up.

Your lover doesn't move:

You do everything possible to please your lover but he just lies there like a corpse.

Possible reasons: He may not like sex. Or he may not like having it with you.

Fix it: Ask your lover if he feels desired by your actions; if he says he does, then tell him you would like to feel that way too. If you're too shy to communicate verbally about this ordeal, then tell him that you'd like to role-play and switch positions. Let him be you and you be him. His body language will almost certainly change.

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