In love and in control

When one is in love, objectivity is not a virtue for everyone. However, if you are the type that falls so madly in love that you start neglecting the fact that he or she is the only person in the relationship who has control, you might be headed down the road to heartbreak. It is important that even when it comes to who controls your relationship there should be balance.

Smitten kitten: This is the easiest way to lose control in your relationship. Even if you are madly in love with your partner, try not to show it. Firstly, he or she will start treating you like a doll and make you do everything they want. Secondly, you need to maintain a sense of yourself and always keep yourself secure. This is not done by behaving like a desperate love puppy.

Don't entertain games: Another trick that your partner could use is that he/she will start playing games with you. The oldest trick in the book is, of course, playing hard to get. If they aren't returning your phone calls, or switch from being very affectionate to very aloof, it only means they are trying to play with your mind. Don't fall for this. Instead, beat them at their own game and start playing hard to get.

The sex weapon: If you and your partner have an amazing sex life, and they start using sex as a weapon to get you to do what they want, it's a sure sign that they want to control more than what is happening in the bedroom. Your attitude should be, 'I have sex because I want to' and not because 'I need to so desperately'.

Back-up plan: No one will try to manipulate or control you if they know they don't stand a chance getting away with it. Therefore, always have a back up plan even when dealing with someone you love. If they cancel plans or can't see you, don't let it affect you. Instead, make plans with your friends and let your partner know you can have fun even without them.

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