Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment | Marriage

Men love their freedom. For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment for marriage to one woman for the rest of their life is enough to send them sprinting for the hills.

The dreaded Mword implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety. So what is the explanation for this phenomenon? Just why are men so afraid of marriage these days?

Here are a few of the reasons:

No more freedom

Men are extremely independent by nature. They like to make their own decisions and run their lives by our own rules. But when a woman enters the picture , all the choices a guy simply used to take for granted suddenly have to be cleared with her first. And her answer is almost always, “No we’re a couple now” and a man understands – I am going to do things my way” . Almost overnight, men find themselves trapped, doing what she wants.

Loss of space

Men like guy things – they need “guy space” for stuff like cars, tools and watching kick-ass action flicks. But women want to take over that territory. Men suddenly have to deal with frilly drapes and paintings of flowers. In fact, they’re so committed to feminizing all the space around them that they quickly start forbidding us to have any guy stuff at all. So suddenly men find the bathroom buried in female products.

One sex partner, forever

We naturally crave sexual variety . When men commit in marriage they willingly volunteer to cut themselves off from any other sexual pursuits. Sexual boredom can set in, followed by a total lack of desire. For a lot of guys who weren’t getting a lot of action anyway — this can be the scariest consequence of all.

The emotional baggage

Many women look at marriage through Cinderella eyes — for them, putting a ring on their fingers means that men will magically solve all their problems, from childhood issues with their fathers to huge shopping debts incurred on credit cards. Women often submerge their true personalities and agendas until the knot is tied — but when the truth comes out and the men find themselves legally bound to a greedy, nagging woman and than it is too late.

Lack of compromise

Marriage implies the ability to compromise — ideally a marriage should be a 50/50 partnership in which each contributes and shares equally. But to a woman, “compromise” often means “do it my way or you’re cut off from sex.” So men are forced into surrendering to this sexual blackmail.

Not ready for it

These days, there are fewer societal pressures to marry and men can weigh options instead of just jumping directly from school into marriage. Men can afford to wait for that perfect woman while they concentrate on getting their careers off the ground, save to buy a house, or actively play the field.

She applies pressure

For a lot of women, commitment is the finish line for their adult lives. They want to get married and they want to do so now. So they exert increasing pressure on men to settle down — pressure that can cause them to pack up and leave.

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